Hello, my husband and I are in the process of opening up a candy/gift shop in our community (which has none) and need major advice/help. we are new to owning a small business but share the same vision and drive to go forth with this idea. we've sold gift baskets, candy and candles at local events and also to friends and family but want to open a small store now. i was wondering is there anyone out there with experience in owning a candy/gift shop or even a retail store? how do i get financing with personal bad credit? i am a female minority and i heard there are grants/loans out there but i cant seem to pinpoint one. I've been on SBA.gov and all i see for start up loans is that you already have to be in business at least for 6 months. we need to borrow at least $20,000 to start. can anyone please help without being mean, nasty or negative? thank you and God bless :)
05/17/2012 05:34 AM
Hi, Im a 16 year old guy aspiring to become a journalist one day. Im a hard worker but to be honest not the most naturally gifted person. I do write articles but Im currently experiencing writers block. Heres an article I wrote. http://voices.yahoo.com/volunteerism-help-solve-global-problems-11210952.html?cat=4 Please give me some ideas. All answers appreciated. Thank you.
05/16/2012 09:03 PM
Please let me know which idea is much better. Mail her the gift before graduation day and put a note on it, Fly to the state and bring her the gift at the Family day, or give it to her at the graduation day? Which ideas is much better base on you experience. Or tell me what would you do, if you were me? It's going to be a small Camera and small lock box, so she can save her mail. It's going to be a small Camera and small lock box, so she can save her mail. It's going to be a small camera and a small lock box, so she can save her mail.
05/14/2012 04:22 PM
I have a 1993 Toyota Tercel DLX (DX) 4 Door Sedan 1.5 EFI Engine 12 valve. My mechanic says that one of the piston rings is leaking oil internally and the cost of repairs is too close to a used engine. If so, is it a good idea to swap for a used engine? What is an approximate cost of fixing the piston ring vs swapping for a new engine. Symptoms (Car burns oil too fast, and black smoke comes out of the engine when in idle, stop light - it burns more when in P and or N gear) I am on a tight budget and need expert opinions, or at least someone who have had experienced this before. (NOTE: I don't want to sell my car. It has a lot of sentimental value since my brother gave it to me as a gift and it's my first car) Thank you so much in advanced for all of those who answer. If you ask, the current mileage is 126, xxx Another correction, it's Blue smoke not black. Sorry about that.
05/10/2012 10:59 PM
When I was in 3rd and 4th grade, I had trouble completing my work. Since I got excellent grades on the work I did complete, my elementary school had a meeting with my parents, suggested that the work was so easy for me that I was getting bored easily, and tested me for advanced placement into what was then called the "gifted program". It was determined that I had a high IQ and was capable of excelling with an advanced curriculum. As a result of this test, I was "skipped" ahead to the 5th grade and placed in a class that did more advanced work than the other classes. While my mother would argue with this, I believe that although it was well-intentioned, it was a setup for me to fail miserably. Yes, I continued to do extremely well on the assignments I was able to complete, but the trouble was that finished assignments were few and far between. The school professionals kept telling my parents that I just needed to stop being so social and show interest in my work, and that I was extremely advanced. The teachers and my parents apparently thought they had a disinterested genius on their hands, and everyone was frustrated at me for not taking my "gift" seriously. Well, I'm smart, I admit that. But the only "gift" I had was more of a curse. It wasnt until high school that, after consistently getting into trouble and finally being demoted back to standard classes, a guidance counselor referred me to a psychiatrist that said I was rife with symptoms of ADD and depression. By this time, my father had passed away, and my mother was so deeply depressed that I was sent to live with various family members and foster homes, and somehow this psychiatrist's diagnoses were never taken seriously, and when they were, it was the depression that everyone could agree on. I was given anti-depressants, which I hated, and eventually I dropped out of school, got into minor skirmishes with the law, experimented with heavy drugs, and finally straightened up enough to hold down a series of jobs and struggle through college, switching majors frequently and dreaming up brilliant ideas for assignments which never actually got done. I managed to exist until I finally met and married a wonderful man and had a beautiful daughter. Well, im 28 now, and a few months ago, after nearly 5 years of observing and tolerating my inattentiveness, inexplicable irritability, inability to motivate myself to finish anything, constant bouncing from project to project and tendency to "tune out" and hyper-focus, my husband told me that I'm a great mother to our daughter, but asked "Don't you want to be the absolute best you can be?" I agreed to see a doctor. Well, my doctor said he had a good guess as to what's going on with me, but said he wanted me to see a psychiatrist he works with to be sure. Within 5 minutes, the psychiatrist said I seem to have all the symptoms of severe ADD (not ADHD, mind you, since actually adults rarely have ADHD...Adult ADHD is almost always actually ADD, hold the 'H', according to my doctor and the renowned specialist she told me about.) Then she had me hook up to this machine/computer, which is called the Quotient ADHD Test. From this 20 minute test (in which you stare at a screen and it gauges your reactions to hitting a button when you see a certain star and reads your head and leg movement and response time, etc...super weird) she was able to deduce that I have moderate to severe ADD, with a Hyperfocus subtype, whatever that means. She gave me an EKG and told me she wanted to start me on 30 mg twice a day of Adderall. I asked her if that was the smallest dose, and she said no, so I asked if I could have a smaller dose, since I hate medications. She said she truly believed I needed to start on AT LEAST 20 mg of the instant release twice a day, but told me that I could start by breaking the pills in half and taking a half twice a day for the first few days. Well, I filled the prescription 3 days ago, and as of yet, I have not taken a single pill. The problem is that I am terrified of anything that makes my heart race or makes me feel wacked out. As I mentioned, embarrassingly, I experimented with almost any drug you can name when I was younger, and I always hated uppers. Cocaine felt great the first few times, and the last few times gave me panic attacks so bad that I went to the ER. I have two cousins on Adderall, and they say I'll be fine, especially because I have a Xanax prescription to take as needed for panic. But I'm very sensitive to medication, which is probably why I didn't continue doing drugs when I was younger. I have had days where I've had too much strong coffee and I've freaked out because I hated the feeling. My family is urging me to take the medication, but I'm so scared to. Any helpful advice or experiences? Sorry for the length of this....
05/10/2012 03:11 PM
Thanks for taking the time to ready my thread! I have been working with fresh water tanks for well around 10 years. My Fiance and I are working on moving into a place of our own. (Naturally i wont be spending much money toward the aquarium any time soon, this is to start my official layout plan for the start up of the aquarium.) Before i ask any questions my background story is My Fiance and I both enjoy and love watching fish, but we would like to get in more to the saltwater breads of fish, mainly because after a few years of experience my Fiance would like to get a shark. This will be my gift to him. As we are a young couple we have the time to spend on such a fascinating hobby. Also we will be getting a mobile home so i am waiting to purchase the tank it self until i have seen the house & know where all the joists and weight baring walls are located. We will also provide extra support underneath the floor where the aquarium will be placed. We are planning for a 200 or 200+ gallon tank depending on what type of a bargain we can find. After my research I think i want to go with either an acrylic (more exspensive, clearer view, repairable, lighter) or starfire glass (clear like acrylic) aquarium tank. Which would be better? I have also been doing research on the type of sharks best for home aquariums, their diets, activeness, breads, & anything else i can find. This is where i decided to start out our aquarium as a fish only tank perhaps? This way later when we are experienced enough to care for a shark the tank will already be set up for them. So far we are interested in bamboo sharks. However, i am more interested in the types of fish we can have in the tank and not worry about any conflicts between the fish and the shark. I also plan on purchasing a few marine books to help get s better prepared for saltwater tanks. Any suggestions? Questions: 1.) Acrylic or starfire aquarium tank? -Acrylic = more expensive, clearer view, repairable, & lighter. Starfire = clear view like acrylic 2.) What would be the best starter set up for our tank? -Due to wanting to advance to adding shark to our aquarium i do know we will need a smoother sand or fine gravel so it doesn't scratch up the sharks skin. 3.) What types of fish should we start out with that may grow & not have to worry about becoming food? - We like fish with color to help brighten our room & give more enjoyment in watching. 4.) Are there any specific types of fish that help keep the aquarium healthy? - I have heard that adding certain fish to the tanks help take away on some of the tank maintenance. I know about freshwater, but am uncertain with the saltwater aquariums. 5.) Where are the better locations in a mobile home to place the aquariums? - I know its easier to determine when you have seen the area, but you never know if someone has experience with larger tanks in mobile homes. Yes, will be placing on weight baring ares & have extra supports added. Posts 4 usa Also by other offers i am talking tanks as big as 500+ gallons i know of a 500 gallon tank for around $800, i just wish i had the money i probably would have gotten it already. Then there was a 700 gallon for a little over $1,000. Please, let me know of any ideas or experience you have!!! Can't wait to hear from you. I'm supper excited about my future hobby!!!!! From the responses so far the indoor pound sounds really cool as you said, but also expensive this is also true. From my research i have found quite a few fish breads that can be placed in with sharks, I just don't know much about the breeds & sometimes reading about them isn't the best way to get the real information on how they are at home. I just wanted to know the larger more beautiful favorite type of saltwater fish that I can have to start out with. My plan is to get them a somewhat young so we have the luxury of watching them grow, it's one of my favorite things. This way we have them for years to enjoy so if we got a shark it would be a baby or an egg & then place him in the tank & the fish will be to big for him to bother, but then we would probably slowly get rid of the fish (my sister also is starting a saltwater tank). So the fish wouldn't be in with the shark for long at all. That's if we decide to (the trailer part is what threw me off, if we got a HOU
05/09/2012 06:55 AM
I know I will probably get allot of scolding and lectures from this question. I believe dogs are a lifelong commitment, I have always kept my dogs through their entire life. I want to do the same with this one, but I am out of ideas... My father bought me a wolf hybrid (husky/wolf) on Christmas of 2009. I disagree with purchasing pets as gifts, but he couldn't return it so I kept him. I heavily socialized, trained and exercised this puppy. He was raised on grain-free food and is still on grain-free food. He has all the toys he wants and is walked daily. We have a 6 ft high chainlink fence, 3 dogs (him, a large breed mix and a border collie) stay out there mostly in the day, being played with and walked several times and brought inside at night. They have ropes, chews and a pool outside. All of my dogs are perfectly behaved but him. As time has gone on, Neo has become psycho devil dog! He chews and destroys the house if I leave him out at night, despite having toys and bones, so he must sleep in a crate now. He jumps the fence sometimes 5 times a day and runs all over the neighborhood, almost being hit by cars and upsetting all of the neighbors and their dogs. I have to chase him all over for sometimes 45 minutes before he gets bored and returns home (I still chase him, I am scared he won't come back). He howls if locked up in the kennel that has a roof, but it is the only way I can contain him. He also digs like crazy! He won't come, won't pay attention to me. I paid $750 to have my 5 ft welded wire fence heightened to a 6 ft chainlink with an electric wire on the top and he still jumps. I paid $450 to have him professionally trained at someone's facility and it didn't work after a 6 week program. I have tried working with him, I don't know what to do! I wish I had the money to pay for a privacy fence but I just don't and he can climb the chainlink. I would have him in the house but he destroys everything! I know I am bad for keeping him, I researched the breed when he was given to me and I saw that they were difficult dogs. I didn't know they were THIS difficult! He has been vetted, neutered, is on heartworm/flea prevention and has all shots btw So what should I do? I tried rehoming him to someone who was experienced with wolf hybrids. They returned him saying he wouldn't eat and broke out of the crate and destroyed their house, when they put him in the kennel he howled for almost 24 hrs so they brought him back to me. Help? Oh and he will jump the fence even if I am right there playing with him. He does it regardless
05/08/2012 04:46 PM
He'll be 18 in June and I'm already 18. I was considering taking him clubbing for both of our first clubbing experiences with all our friends who are 18. Curious of some of the different clubs in dallas, tx and which would be fun for us at our age, what music are at each, etc. I also need gift ideas and restaurant ideas as well. We will have been dating for a year and almost a month when his birthday comes around. (I'm not super rich). Thanks in advance!
05/06/2012 06:24 PM
05/06/2012 04:24 AM
My friend and I are going to Tokyo for a week in November, I have been talking to a Japanese girl who is the same age as me for a while online and she has kindly offered to take us out to experience the nightlife with her and her friends. I would like to take a gift to give to her to show my appreciation for taking the time and effort to take us out. Does anyone have any ideas what would be ideal? what she would like? FYI my friend and I are both female, 25 and from the UK
05/04/2012 01:39 AM
My younger sister is turning 14. She is a little spoiled, being the baby of the family and all, but that's understandable. I've been away from home a lot and the first time I'll see her in months is the day after her birthday. I'm willing to spend a little money, so that door is totally open. Here's what her spoiled self already owns: Cell Phone, Ipod, private access to a laptop, a horse (no joke here), and pretty much anything she's smart enough to ask for. She doesn't like my sense of style, so clothes and accessories are not good ideas and I'd prefer to avoid gift cards as they are somewhat impersonal. I was maybe thinking a gag gift? She's tall, lanky, and her most important hobby is horses. She's basically your typical 14 year old popular girl. I have absolutely no experience in that field. Help! Thanks for any and all suggestions. Spa day isn't bad, but I know for a fact that my mother will already do pedicures and such with her before the big day. Keep the suggestions rolling!
05/03/2012 01:43 PM
My dad is an experienced fly fisherman does anyone know of a gift I could give him? Vacations? Anything memorable? He's got all the equipment and even ties his own flies, we've gotten him supplies and all the gear before so not looking for anything materialistic. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!
05/01/2012 07:17 PM
My boyfriend is turning 21. I need to get him a gift around the £200 mark. He is obsessed with films and everything about them. But I don't want to buy him £200 worth of DVDs or a portable DVD player or such like as he has it all. He also plays bass guitar but his parents are buying him a new one anyway and he has amps/pedals etc. I want to buy him an experience type gift or something he'll love and keep. ideas please!
04/23/2012 09:19 PM
We've been best friends for 5 years and she's the last to turn 16. I want to do something really amazing, not necessarily just a present like maybe an outing or gift experience. She likes McFly, The Wanted, Harry potter, Doctor who, Back to the future, Animals and Horses, The hunger games, The Big Bang Theory, Johnny Depp, Pirates, chocolate and sweets. She's a bit of a tomboy and I want to do something AMAZING. Help would be appreciated! <3
04/17/2012 05:40 PM
I just wanted to say I know there are millions of people out there right now and in the past that have had worse experiences then what I have been through. I have been through some horrible situations in my life and it mainly has to do with the way I was raised. I could give you all a detailed history, but that would take forever. The number one thing is the fact that I have let people run over me so many times that I don't know what is right or wrong any more. Anyways I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2007 and I was honorable discharged from the military and have been in and out of the hospital since October, 2011. Before I was discharged I meet the angel sent from heaven, my husband, we only knew each other for 2 months before we got married. We have been married for 5 years and 6 months and even though I have had all these problems he has always been there for me. Also in 2008 my other angel from heaven my daughter was born. This is my problem now, even though God has given me these two amazing gifts, I still can not get my past out of my head. I have worked really hard since October to improve my self to be a better mom and wife. The one thing that I keep felling is the fact I can not tell my self that I am not a piece of crap and I can tell my self I can improve. I come to realize that I just don't want to be the way my parents were, or the way others have treated me in the past. I am trying to find some help on things that I should work on. I know most of you are just going to say stop thinking that, but I have tried and I can seem to stick to it. If anyone has any other ideas PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME. Thank you so much for the advice. I hope one day I could help one of you with what ever you need help with.
04/17/2012 09:42 AM
For just over a year I have been having severe trouble getting to sleep at night. I have been to the doctors on two occasions and told her everything. She said it would not be a good idea to give me sleeping pills as I am only sixteen. Story Time : Round about this time last year, I went through an experience with my best friend and the boy I loved(lets call him "J")..... (he didnt know I loved him but he knew I USED to like him, he thought I didnt anymore). Me and "J" had been best friends up into the November 2009, (I had asked him out earlier that year and he said no, that was when our friendship slowly started to crumble.) when someone told me he had said some horrendous things about me on a school trip to Belgium. I of course confronted him about it, he got annoyed, I got upset, and that lead to countless arguments and shouting matches between us. I still loved him, but he didnt know. For about a year we went through this, untill one night, when I was pouring my heart out to my best friend (lets call her "S") offered to go and speak to "J" and tell him to forgive me. She did, she friended him on Facebook, got talking, and eventually they ended up spending more time together as friends than I ever did. "S" had a boyfriend, a nineteen year old guy that I had met once. ("S" was four years younger, nobody approved, not even me.) Me and "J" met up one day down the town and had coffee together, we fixed things up and apologised and everything was okay. But after that, I started to get jealous. One day, I remember the 5th March, "S", "J" and me had lunch together in the school, I stood with my back to him all that time, knowing that he could talk to her perfectly fine, but not me. I was annoyed, and a bit suspicious. Then, on the 11th of March, she and him "hung out" together. I knew, she'd told me over text. (she hardly ever came to school due to some stress related stomach problem she apparently had, but never showed any signs of, I know for a fact it was attention seeking and she just wanted to sit a home and drink). I wasnt really happy at the idea of those two "hanging out". That night, when they were "hanging out", I got a text from her saying that "J" was "so sound". I was getting slightly suspicious, at the back of my head I was secretly thinking that maybe there was something going on between them, but I dismissed it, "she would never do that to her boyfriend" I thought. That friday, when I was sleeping over at another friends house, I got a phonecall from "S", saying that her and her boyfriend "A" had broken up because some other guy was chatting her up. I went along with it, comforted her while she sobbed and threw out all the gifts he had given her. I just forgot about it and got on with everything. That Sunday, I logged onto MSN, and a girl who i know quite well (but were not friends) typed this in. "Did you here about "S" and "J" ??" Instantly, just for a second, the idea popped into my head that maybe they were going out. I typed in "no, why". She replied back "there going out." My whole world stopped. I started breathing heavily, crying, shaking (no exaggeration). She told me to look on Facebook, I did. In white and blue the words " "S" is in a relationship with "J" "". I spent the whole day crying, comfort eating, wondering why. I wondered if "A" knew. ( "S"'s Ex") The next morning I was riding on the bus to school, and I had a missed call from "A", that only meant one thing....he knew that they were in a relationship. I called him back and for the next half an hour, he cried and talked about how much he had loved her. And then I found out that they had broken up, because "S" and "J" had cheeted together when they "Hung out". I was raging, she had lied through her teeth to me on the phone! I had had enough, and I phoned "S" at lunch, and asked her if it was true, she denied it all of course, said that he had "misread the signs and thought they were going out". What a load of crap. I hung up, disgusted at the situation. Then, I decided to go and find "J", I phoned him, said I needed to talk to him. As i walked round the corridor in school, i bumped into him, turns out he had been looking for me too. He denied it all of course, I just said i couldnt believe he would do something like that, then left. He came up to me when I was at my locker at the end of the day, and he said 'im so sorry for what i did i shouldnt have done that sorry'. I told him to phone me.Later that night, we spoke on the phone and i forgave him, he didnt know how much i love him , it wasnt his fault. Couldnt say the same
04/15/2012 02:06 PM
My manager of a few years is leaving to take another job at a different company. Including me, there is 2 other managers at this job. We are already planning her a party but I want to give her a gift just from me personally. We are all nothing short of ecstatic for her. Its an amazing job opportunity for her and we are so happy she got offered this job. It is a very emotional parting however. We are all very very close and a close knit company. I want the perfect gift to be able to give to her to say not only thank you for everything she has done but to show how much I/we really did apreciate everything and how much she will truely be missed. Any ideas, personal experiences, etc. Any help would be extremely extremely appreciated! Thanks in advance!
04/11/2012 03:59 PM
Where do I start? The title says it all... kinda. I guess I can start with saying that im 23 and I have not lived a day in my life. I have gone to friends, family and even two therapist and still no one has been able to help me. I don't really like the idea of myself asking random people for advice via the net however, I don't see many other options for myself right now. I'm going to start by blatantly saying that im freaking alone! I have two friends and my family. I can't honestly say that I have had any sort of meaningful relationship with a woman. It kills me, the thought that I have never had the pleasure to enjoy the sensation of touching a woman. Honestly in any sort of way. Never been kissed. I will leave it at that. I know im attractive. I know what women's eyes are telling me. I feel suppressed, I often imagine how it would feel If I shot myself in the head. Its comforting almost now. I want to live though! I enjoy the gift of life. I don't want to waste life but I fear I have been wasting life to the greatest extent! I know there is so much I could do for myself and for others however, 99% of the time I choose to lock myself in my bedroom (or my head). I want to do good for the world but I know noting will happen if I continue to live the way I am now. Here is one of my biggest issues that I have been trying to overcome the past year. Up until the past year, I have never asked a girl out on an actual date. In the past seven months I have asked out about five girls that I am very interested in (That’s a huge deal for me). I have also tried online dating for about five months and that never worked. I probably sent messages to over seventy women, maybe six replied and only two talked to me for more then two messages. One date came from it. It was a complete letdown, the date and the dating website. I am a student in college. Im not really studying anything in particular, just trying to get a two year liberal arts degree right now. Honestly the only reason I want to stay in college is because it has been my only outlet for socialization. I don't go out and do things with people and I don't go to bars. I really dont know what to do with people. I don’t go to the mall and I don’t go shopping. When I see someone looking my way, I shy away and act if im uninterested and occupied. I have come to the realization that im afraid to socialize. Honestly I think im afraid. Instead of experiencing life and developing my personality I hideaway in my room. What am I afraid of? I mean, I feel these things inside… deep, it hurts. Here is a scenario: I am feeling I want to do something, I want to socialize and do new things. Maybe I want to go out, go to bars, parties take my friends offer of rock wall climbing, talk to a girl in class or someone I just ran into at the gas station. Regardless of what I feel inside and I know what would be best. I always choose to avoid any sort of socialization. One part of this is that I feel I never have anything to talk about. I feel that I have no imagination. I feel that there is nothing that I can give to anyone. I feel that people are better off without me because I have nothing to share with them intellectually or even physically. Honestly I feel that im in everyone’s way and im not good enough for them (I have low self esteem). I feel this especially when Im around someone I want o impress. Quick example: there is this girl in one of my classes. I have asked her out twice. She said no twice. But I know her eyes tell me otherwise every day. She recently got out of a long relationship and said she does not want to date. I said that’s cool, would you be interred in hanging out? She said sure! Since then I really have not taken it any further and it has been a month or more. I feel I have lost her at this point, like I have done with numerous women in the past. I have her number, I want to call her but im afraid. All I want to do is talk to her in class and what I end up doing is staying quiet and smiling. I continue to do this to myself and its eating away at my soul. I can’t continue to live my life like this. I have gray hairs due to stress at the age of 23. Honestly I will not take my life, but if death were to come my way I would not fight him. I want to move forward and grow in life. I have asked for help from those closest to me and those that only just know me. I have tried making changes on my own and I have tried doing nothing. I need help! Please someone out there in this world, you must have the right words for me.
04/11/2012 08:55 AM
Osho – Gautama the Buddha has given to the world the most psychological religion. It is incomparable; no other religion even comes close to it. Its heights, its depths, are tremendous. And the reason why Buddha succeeded in giving such a beautiful vision of life is very simple: he did not believe; he inquired, he explored. He did not believe in the tradition, he did not believe in the scriptures, he did not believe in the priests. This was one of his fundamentals: that unless you know, you don’t know. You can borrow knowledge, you can become knowledgeable, well informed, a scholar, a pundit, a professor, but you will not be a seer. Deep down the ignorance will persist and will affect your life. Deep down you will remain the same childish self, immature, ungrounded, uncentered, unintegrated. You will not be an individual, you won’t have any authenticity. You will be pseudo, false, phony. It is a quantum leap into the unknown. When you don’t believe in the tradition, when you don’t believe in the scriptures, when you don’t believe in anything except your own experience, you are going into the unknown all alone. It needs guts, it needs courage. And only a courageous person can be truly religious. Cowards are there in the churches, in the temples, in the mosques in millions, but they don’t create any religious beauty, any religious fragrance in the world. They don’t make the world more beautiful, more alive, more sensitive. They don’t create anything. They only go on doing formalities, rituals. They themselves are dead and they go on deceiving others; they themselves are deceived. Borrowed knowledge creates great deception because you start feeling as if you know — and that “as if” is a big “as if.” Truth liberates, belief binds. Truth liberates because it has to be yours; it has to be an inner experience, an encounter with that which is. Buddha is a nonbeliever. He is not an atheist like Karl Marx or Friedrich Nietzsche; neither is he a theist like all the priests of all the religions. He is an agnostic. He neither believes nor disbelieves; he is open. That is his great gift to the world: to be open to truth. Go utterly naked, without any conclusions, without any ideology, any prejudice. Otherwise there is every possibility that you will project your own idea. You will not see that which is, you will see only that which you want to see. You will be creating your own reality which is bound to be false. Reality has not to be invented, it has to be discovered. It is already there. And remember, it is not the reality which is hidden, it is your eyes which are covered with layers of dust. Buddha gave to the world a nonmetaphysical religion, a psychological religion. He simply helps you to go beyond mind. He helps you to understand the mind because it is only through understanding that transcendence happens. But when I say that Buddha has given the most psychological religion to the world, don’t misunderstand me. He has not given a psychology; he has given a psychological religion which is a totally different phenomenon. He has not given a psychology like Sigmund Freud, Carl Gustav Jung, Adler, Pavlov, Skinner, etcetera. These people are confined to the mind; they think mind is all. There is nothing beyond the mind, so analyze the mind. If you have found the truth of the mind you have found the truth, according to them. That is beginning with a wrong attitude. Man is neither the body nor the mind. Man is the awareness within which can look at the body, which can look at the mind, which is capable of witnessing all. You are the witness. Hence I say, Buddha has not given a psychology. A psychology is a very ordinary phenomenon. It does not bring transformation to your life because it cannot bring any transcendence. At the most it helps you to be a little more adjusted to yourself and to the world that surrounds you, to the society, to the people with whom you have to live. It helps you to become a little more adjusted. Psychology is basically orthodox; it is not revolutionary, it cannot be. It serves the status quo, it serves the establishment. It keeps you within the boundaries; it does not help you to go beyond the boundaries. It is not in your service. It is controlled by those who are in power — by the state, by the church, by the society. In a very disguised way it keeps you tethered to the collective mind. It does not help you to become an individual, because to be an individual is to be rebellious, to be an individual is to go on your own, to be an individual is to be a danger to the society. Buddha gives a psychological religion. Religion means he helps you to understand the mind so that you can go beyond it — not so that you can become adjuste
04/09/2012 10:19 AM
Can you temme 24 romantic place in the world and little description about the place too 2 3 lines.I want to make my bf a scrapbook with 24 places/cities i want to go with him for our 2nd anniversary. any ideas how to do it. what to name the book. NO Photos of us. and decorating tips. and ideas for the places to.Can someone please help me where and how to start? the book should have 24 place with little description and i was thinking of leaving a place for a picture where we can stick in future. and place to write our experience when we get there. i don't want it to be tooo big. so 8' x 8' is what i'm looking for. so and i also need help with 24 romantic place and li'l romantic description. and decorating ideas. i don't have time. PLEASE ANSWER. and i was thinking i'd name the book ' Let's get lost ' :) Thank you! 24 romantic destinations around the world. Venice, paris, barcelona, prague, bora bora, cape town, etc
04/05/2012 12:37 PM
Last year I bought front row center tickets for me, her and my dad for Cirque Du Soleil in Orlando FL. We will be in Central Florida for her coming birthday in July. I have no clue on how to top last years gift? Set me back a little over a grand to do it, but well worth the price. She has had a really rough year this year being diagnosed with Glaucoma. She has done so much for me and I just want to make this really special. I'm willing to spend up to 2 G on her birthday, I can't really go over that. She is a very adventurous woman, she has sky dived, flown planes, and been to more countries then I can name. Anybody have a suggestion for just something really amazing that will blow her mind? I'm thinking something more of an experience then a gift. I could easily buy her an expensive piece of jewelery and call it done. I want to take her out to do or see something amazing, something that will build a lasting memory. Does anyone have any ideas? I should add that I will only be visiting for a week so a trip somewhere won't really work. It has to be something I can do in central Florida. I should add that I will only be visiting for a week so a trip somewhere won't really work. It has to be something I can do in central Florida. Yes her Birthday is July 12th. I will be the from July 7th to July 14th. I can't do trips or cruises, mainly because she has been on many trips and cruises all around the world. Secondaly because it's something I want to do with her and a cruise or trip isn't really in my time frame. We've seen Crique DU Soleil and the Blue Man Group. I guess I'm looking for a show, or concert or just something different I can take her to. Yes her Birthday is July 12th. I will be the from July 7th to July 14th. I can't do trips or cruises, mainly because she has been on many trips and cruises all around the world. Secondaly because it's something I want to do with her and a cruise or trip isn't really in my time frame. We've seen Crique DU Soleil and the Blue Man Group. I guess I'm looking for a show, or concert or just something different I can take her to.
04/03/2012 03:56 AM
Me and a couple of friends are putting money in on getting out favorite teacher a gift. We all graduate this year, and we have had her for four years of Spanish. She's a big part of our high school experience, a big part of why most of us have such a love for Spanish, and we adore her to pieces... Any ideas on a gift we could get her?
04/01/2012 12:16 AM
I'm looking for ideas about a birthday gift for my boyfriend, and I would like to hear your comments about the best birthday experience of your life. Thank you!
03/31/2012 09:47 PM
I'd like to give my girlfriend an extraordinary gift for her birthday... It's on April 3rd. I figured, what better way to do it than to play a romantic piano song? My only problem is that I've just started playing piano, I only have about 2 weeks of experience. I'm looking for something really romantic to play that's about 2-3 minutes long that even a beginner can get down within 5 days. Any ideas?
03/29/2012 12:02 AM
i need thoughtful gift ides for my mom guys, for mothers day, birthday and holidays. if you could help out from your experience or...redirect me to a website that'll be awesome!!!!
03/27/2012 05:22 PM
Thinking about using a microbrew kit for a gift idea, did a google search and many different kits showed up ranging from 20 to over $100! Wondering if anyone had any insight from experience in using these at-home kits as to ones to avoid, or ones that worked out great! Thanks!
03/26/2012 12:10 AM
I mean just yesterday i had did the whole sprint my hardest for 30 seconds then walk inbetween for about 2-3 minutes about 5 times, then I had got into they gym pumped, I had drank my coffee, ate the right amount of food. Had taken my b12 Shot and all, then I get in the ring to spar this 100 pounder (I'm 130 pounds) I was rlly nervous but at the same time pumped( btw we wear 18 ounce gloves for sparring if this is part of the problem) he's a bit more experienced since he had been boxing for 3 years, Me for about 4( but inconsistent training, in and out of the gym) so I get in and all of a sudden my arms and legs feel heavy and the slightest move exhaust me, I'm a guy with above average reflexes and even though they were fast I was still unable to move out of the way of his punches, and the moment i would react he would catch the headgear instead and knock my head back a bit, I got tired out and drained extremely fast, by the second round my tank was completely empty. I tried counter punching but it was no use because i was so drained, I really really felt If i had enough stamina( mental stamina too) that i could have really wrecked him with slick-counters and on point timing, but I get in there and I have spaghetti legs, everything I learned completely goes out of the window, could the training gear be too heavy? I mean i shadow box and everything is on point, then i get in the ring and it all goes to hell, what the hell can i do to improve my physical and mental stamina? i can barely throw combinations without getting absolutely tired, it's depressing me, you have no idea what it's like being a naturally gifted fighter without the stamina to back it up. Btw my coaches make us spar unexpectedly, so there's no way of telling when I am going to spar and when he does he picks my opponent for us, and lately i have been feeling as though 2 of my coaches have sort of been ignoring me and focusing on their top fighters, because after the kid who pummeled and I both got on the bag they all went to him and and observed him instead of helping me out who had the most trouble. The head coach is the only one who seems to really help me out and work with me on the mitt's but his style of training just doesn't match up with my counter-punching/out-boxer style. The coach who does focus on counter punching tremendously and rarely works with me on the mitt's. Plus when we spar it's always all out sparring.
03/24/2012 08:50 PM
So, Ive been thinking about the possibility of starting a boarding school, specifically for abused and/or orphaned girls, as i have a special place in my heart for them. There are a few problems with this.... Finances and absolutely no knowldge of the needed process whatsoever. Ive been told many times that I have a gift for working with children and I have a passion for teaching, language, travel, and the arts, so I would love for it to be a "liberal arts" school, as my high school was (though it was not boarding, nor for specifically those abused or orphaned....). How realistic is this idea? Where would I start? Any experience with this process that you wouldn't mind sharing would be greatly appreciated. And, as for the funding, how would one without nearly the needed finances earn them? What's the best method(s)? thank you!
03/23/2012 09:34 PM
I'll be honest, I'm feeling a tad desperate here, which is why I'm on Yahoo answers in the first place I guess.. My work requires me to be in another country the week when my girlfriend and I celebrate our 1 year together and her 21st birthday a day later. What I need help with is how can I still make this time really special still. I can't buy her a plane ticket to be with me, I just don't have enough money. So I'd like to celebrate these occasions before AND after I leave. I'm not the most creative, I'm struggling to come up with ideas. I need help! Anybody got any ideas of something, anything (!) I could do on both days while I'm away, like an online gift or gesture or whatever? Anybody been in a similar situation before or a long distance relationship? What kind of present(s) should I give her for our 1 year together and her 21st birthday? What could we do together the day/night before I leave and the day/night after I get back? I don't know, I can't seem to come up with something that's worthy of the occasion. I need inspiration, I care about this girl so much and I want to make it special and show her how much it means to me. If anybody could share experiences of something, a gift or gesture that blew you or your partner away, I'd appreciate it so much.
03/22/2012 11:05 PM
So I'm part of this daycare program at my school and two teachers run it. One teacher is new and assists or subs when the others out. The one this is about is of course the experienced, all around amazing teacher we want to do something special for. At the beginning of this week we learned from the teacher assistant that her mother had passed so she wouldn't be in this week. So there's been a lot of talk about us doing something to really show our appreciation for her and pretty much just put a big smile on her face. We've already decided to all bring in money on Friday to pitch in to buy a Edible Arrangement for her. I was thinking about doing something that involved the children, mostly because she adores them to pieces. Maybe cards from them and from us, presented in some type of decorated box? Not sure yet, I just need some ideas so I can have this done by Monday. Any suggestions would be awesome (:
03/22/2012 03:01 PM
I'll be honest, I'm feeling a tad desperate here, which is why I'm on Yahoo answers in the first place I guess.. My work requires me to be in another country the week when my girlfriend and I celebrate our 1 year together and her 21st birthday a day later. What I need help with is how can I still make this time really special still. I can't buy her a plane ticket to be with me, I just don't have enough money. So I'd like to celebrate these occasions before AND after I leave. I'm not the most creative, I'm struggling to come up with ideas. I need help! Anybody got any ideas of something, anything (!) I could do on both days while I'm away, like an online gift or gesture or whatever? Anybody been in a similar situation before or a long distance relationship? What kind of present(s) should I give her for our 1 year together and her 21st birthday? What could we do together the day/night before I leave and the day/night after I get back? I don't know, I can't seem to come up with something that's worthy of the occasion. I need inspiration, I care about this girl so much and I want to make it special and show her how much it means to me. If anybody could share experiences of something, a gift or gesture that blew you or your partner away, I'd appreciate it so much.
03/20/2012 11:13 AM
I am 32wks pregnant, married, originally from the UK but now living in a different country with my husband. I have a friend who is from the USA and she is keeps asking my husband about throwing me a surprise baby shower. He doesn't know what to say to her and neither do I. To me its more of an American tradition, I'm not really comfortable with the idea for a number of reasons. I don't like being the centre of attention (even at my own wedding) I don't really have a lot of female friends here, just wives/girlfriends of my husbands friends, none of my family or UK friends would be able to attend and in my emotionally fragile state I would find their absence at such an important life event upsetting. I also feel it's like forcing people who don't know me very well to buy gifts. Christmas was upsetting enough for me, receiving gifts from people who have no idea about my tastes, I know that sounds ungrateful, but it just made me miss my family and friends back in the UK more than normal. If I wasn't pregnant I would totally be able to gracefully accept and thank them, but I cry at the drop of a hat these days. Also I like to read product reviews and select items that I feel are safe/educational/value for money, I don't want people wasting cash on rubbish and I think registering is sort of cheeky. Plus I'm just not into playing silly games, talking girl talk or hearing horror stories about other women's terrible labour experiences. It just doesn't seem like a good idea to me. Is she going to expect me to throw one for her when she gets pregnant? I don't want the birth of my first baby to go by uncelebrated, I don't want it to seem like this isn't a massive event in my life because it totally is, but my husband's family think baby showers are a dumb idea, they find her irritating and they would be making up the majority of the guest list. Am I weird to feel this way? Should I refuse or just let her do it anyway to save an uncomfortable situation? What should I say to my friend without seeming ungrateful or upsetting her? Hi to all who replied, I've read what you've all said but this issue, and there are some good points but I still feel that this isn't resolved. My friend knows how I feel, I've told her at length and she's seen me break down a good few times. Also We have already bought a lot of what we need, travel system, car seat, sterilizer, bottles, nappy disposal system, cot bed, moses basket, toys, loads of neutral coloured clothes, toiletries, stage 1 nappies, bathing and changing equipment etc. Correct me if i've missed something but I don't think that we are in need of any essential baby items, if we don't have it yet it's because its something expensive that we haven't decided if we need yet or which one to get (like a baby monitor and cot bedding bale). We decided and planned to have this baby and I feel that we should provide the things we need ourselves bit by bit. Plus that's a way for me to adjust to whats happening to my body and to get read
03/19/2012 03:11 AM
Well I'm not an adult for starters, I'm almost a teen, but I think maybe my house is a bit funny. It starts that my sister had lived in this house for her entire childhood , as have I and our brother, and she doesn't like this house. She hates it because she always kind of feels like she's being watched or something. We have stairs with gaps that you can peek through. If you go to the platform going upstairs you could put your head on the top step and watch everything going on downstairs. She can see something at the corner of her eye, looks up to that place and sees someone doing that even during the day even when shes alone. Sometimes I do but I pass it as a strand of hair on that side of my face. The stairs she sometimes hears being climbed or creaking. I pass this as old wood starting to creak. I think she could be right because she has had experiences with ghosts like lightning sheets happening then random men in tuxes and top hats appearing and disappeared. That was with a younger friend though. She was once also at that house with her friend, putting on a bikini and the bed jumped about a ft off the ground. When she as really young living with MY parents in another house she has had things like being shaken or held to the bed while she was asleep, doors bending, curtains flying up with out wind or windows or doors open. < that was all in another house which they are moved from now, thank god, but I now live in her room she lived in when she was my age. I have this room and she doesn't like it and doesn't sleep in it when she comes over to sleep but neither do I because we both feel very very uneasy. Is in a corner next to a full length window. She's really good with ghosts and spirits and can feel their energy and feelings. She can also do this with other people. Say if she walked past someone sad in the street she would feel the sadness. The energy. Anyway she is gifted and I used to have my bed pushed right into that corner and felt sad and uneasy. I felt things only nudging my leg and sometimes the bed weigh down as if someone was sitting on it. I felt sad because my sister says when she sees the poor spirit she sees him sitting in the corner often looking out the window holding a wilted rose. That's what she sees. I moved my bed as far from that corner as possible but the room is not very big so I'm still fairly close to it. Now I'm too chicken to sleep at night in that room. Has anyone had things like this? I don't think at all they're bad spirits but maybe very sad. Sometimes at night I hear our stuff in the upstairs bathroom being played or rummaged through. What's really scary is that the shaft above our house ( shaft or attic) the little square lid moves. We could position it to its normal spot and the next day it'll move an inch, next day another then another. Sometimes I have dreams in my room and I'll recognize them in real life a few days later. These are just weird things that happen. Anyway sorry it's so long and I know it's all over the place, not very well written but I did my best. I can email you photos of the corner the shaft lid or stairs to give a you a better idea. I can give you better detail in anything you need to know I just wanted to know what I should do with the boy in the corner. Should I just leave it, get a cleanser, tell him to leave me alone even though he's not really do anything. I don't want to make anyhting mad if there's anything angry with us or something. I have a feeling these are both children though since things like makeup, bobby pins are being rummuged through. I don't know , I'm too chicken to research this on my own in case of videos or anything. Ps- I don't want anything do do with video cameras. Thanks heaps :)
03/18/2012 02:51 AM
I want to see if there is a religion out there that closely matches what I believe in and wondered if you could help me. It’s going to be a lengthy so I apologise for that. I’ve grown up with Christianity around me. I’ve also had a go at Buddhism which made more sense to me than Christianity. Things I don’t believe in: - Christianity: If a person spent their life being good and spreading happiness but didn’t believe in God they would spent eternity in Hell. However if a Christian killed someone, asked for forgiveness and felt truly sorry for what they did God would accept them for eternity in Heaven. I find this God completely unfair. - Human looking God: If there is a God I don’t think it would be of an image of an old man sitting on a throne made of cloud looking down at us through a magnified glass, constantly testing us to see if we can have the gift an eternal life. - Heaven & Hell: I don’t believe that there is a bad soul out there. Yes people can commit bad things but no soul is purely good or evil, think Yin and Yang. Each is opposites yet has a bit of the other opposite inside of them. - Strict rules: I don’t like the idea of strict rules we have to stick to after all we are placed on a beautiful planet, why can’t be learn and explore it? I feel that we would only ‘pray’ whenever we feel ‘re-freshing’ than 8 o’clock on the dot everyday. Things I do believe in: - Bing Bang: This world and Universe is a strange and beautiful masterpiece and it would have taken billions of years for it to get where it is now. - Ghosts: I believe in Ghosts yet I don’t have an explanation for them. I believe in them as my brother sees them and nothing else explains why a few weeks ago I had a ghost sitting at the end of my bed the one night and decide to stroke my legs. I felt her heavy weight and her hand rubbing my legs. A few nights ago a different ghost wouldn’t stop sitting on me no matter what position I lied in and when I went onto my back he sat on my stomach and was really heavy yet I couldn’t move. It wasn’t a pleasant experience. - Karma: If we commit something bad, no matter how small, it will come back to us and something bad will happen to us. If we give out kindness then kindness to us will be our gift. (Think of Extreme Makeover where people devote their lives to help people, in return they are thanked and loved and given a beautiful and safe home.) - Connectivity: I believe that we are one and one is all. If you have watched the Anime Arjuna you will understand what I mean and I don’t just mean by the physical world but also in the spiritual world. I believe that we are one soul connected, perhaps we are even God. Things I’m in constant debate about: -Prophecy: I have premonition dreams meaning at times I can predict what will happen if I happen to see it in my dreams a few weeks earlier. For example, I told my friend in school that in a couple of weeks our science teacher is going to become ill and we will have a blonde female wearing a light red jacket will teach us instead. On top of that I said we will study the eye in her lesson. To her amazement it came true. What I don’t like is the idea that our future is already set for us. That our life and experiences on this planet had already been decided before we are even born. - Spirits & Souls: Sometimes I believe that we have a soul, sometime I don’t. It all depends on what scientific research I have been looking at lately. - Reincarnation: When we die I kind of believe that we enter a place where we rest, re-view our past experiences, catch up with lost family and friend members etc. when we feel ready, we move on and reincarnate either as a human being or a different animal. That’s it for now. Any suggestions please say so but also please explain why you chose that one. What similarities of my beliefs are there with the religion you had chosen? Thank yooooooou ^.^
03/15/2012 02:02 AM
I've seen a lot of discussions on how ldr don't work, but also people giving great advice to keep it going! I'm not there yet. Here's my story, I am in Europe, my guy is in the US, we've known each other for 3 years now online with no purpose of dating in the beginning. We got closer and closer til we became friends. Not having the barrier of feelings and all the "what ifs" and "buts" and "maybes", friendship was flowing and led to uncertainty about the nature of our relationship. The feelings grew bigger and we needed to shift from an online relationship to something more real and see if we would work in real life. I need to mention that we're both involved in our personal life, by involved, i mean we have no interest in online relationships and have come across each other by accident on a travel site. We both have good ties with family and friends and a pretty active lifestyle. So we did start to skype and call each other, that was a little over 8 months ago, which helped tremendously to get to another level of our relationship. Also we did communicate every day for the past year (texting, skype and letters at one point). Right now i came back a month ago from a week spent with him, which went great, even better, things did flow again and we have great chemistry, we went out much and did many couples activities together. My issue here is that we shifted from strangers to friends to lovers and i think it went pretty fast and now it is difficult to put a name on this relationship and we havent discussed it yet, i avoid the subject and he doesnt bring it up, i am kinda nervous to talk about it, because its make or break and it is a serious conversation that is needed right now... I have mixed feelings, they're strong, i feel connected to him, he makes me smile and i feel amazing around him, but i dont think it is love yet. This situation is very frustrating, because i dont know how to bring it up and i also have no idea if it'll work, he's a good man and i can totally see myself investing long term with him. I believe the frustration comes from the expectations we had and the commitment it takes and leap of faith to invest in such a relationship. We'd need to move closer and we're both in a time where we can choose where to settle and we both want to settle down and are looking for a serious relationship. AAaaaaaah its soooooo frustrating not to know and waiting for him to talk, i guess i'll have to bring it up soon or we might grow apart which scares meee a lot! Also when i was over there, he was a perfect gentleman, and paid for everything, also he made me feel very comfortable, did his best for us to have fun and discover as many things and doing as many activities as possible, not to mention that we did not have sex, like at all, just kisses and hugs and hands holding. We're both 26. And I did want to say thank you and send a gift his way, any ideas on gifts i could send? i did bake homemade cookies and bought him a shirt but i've wanted something more personal. We only took one picture together, so maybe customize it and send it with a thank you letter? Thank you guys for reading if you made it this far, please help me sort this out. If you have any experience to share about ldr and how it starts, the commitment etc... please do! Thanks again...
03/13/2012 01:11 AM
i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for his 16th. Hes obsessed with harry potter so im taking him to the harry potter experience in London. I want to get him a gift as well and i have no idea what to get him. any suggestions? thanks :) x
03/11/2012 05:33 PM
Here is my little story and I'm not quite sure what category to place this under. So forgive me. Every woman in my life has betrayed me in some way or another. My mother cheated on my father before I was born, accidentally getting pregnant with me. However, I didn't find this out till I was 14, so you can imagine how betrayed I felt, knowing my father I was living with wasn't blood. I also have to deal with the fact everyday, that I put my father through unimaginable pain. When I was 13 - 16, I had a girlfriend, we were really close, or so I thought. She apparently cheated on me for nearly the entire time of our relationship. That's stupid teenage stuff though, I thought nothing of it after I got over it. I was in another long term relationship at 17 - 19. I could say this girl was my "first love". (The reason I put quotations is because I believe you only fall in-love once) She was amazing, she was beautiful, her smile was amazing, I could literally say everything about her was amazing, but she moved. She lived in Oklahoma through her childhood, but she's lived here since she was 14. (I befriended her when she moved) So what ended up happening, she got up enough money to move back and she did, without even consulting me. I only found out she moved because of my friend which was also her friend. My sister lied to me about doing drugs, (I found them in her house, crack cocaine) she then proceeded to confess to me. Not quite last, but the other ones don't really matter considering I think you get the gist. I just found out, not even a few hours ago, my late girlfriend of 3 years (I was going to ask her to marry me this April) cheated on me and got knocked up. (I must be absolutely dreadful in the sack) I'm not going to let a child feel the way I do about my father everyday. I'm going to let him be raised by blood, so I'm breaking it off. These were just some of the worst I've experienced, not nearly all. So what is it? Is it inevitable that every woman I come in contact with will let me down? Or am I just being close-minded? I just don't feel like trying anymore, my relationships seem so damn perfect. I can count on one hand how many fights I've been in with my girlfriends. I buy them gifts and listen to what they have to say. When my girl needs something done, I do it. What more do you want? I have no idea anymore, any other male that has experienced what I have regarding women?
03/09/2012 09:49 PM
I decided that seeing as i have some free time as of late that volunteering at my local hospital would be a good idea. I originally signed up with the selfish intention of getting some work experience, but after having an interview with the volunteer coordinator it doesn't seem so necessary any more. I have a job- not a well paying or good one, but a job none the less (cashier). The only things that i could really do at the hospital were gift shop cashier-what i get paid to do now; laundry help, and cafeteria work. I was hoping to do more clerical type things but that isnt really an option. And all the possible work is just crappy jobs that i could get paid to do without any real experience. Should i just give up or what? I know helping people should be the main objective in volunteering, but hey im just thinking of my future job prospects.
03/08/2012 06:32 PM
personally I am pro-choice but I want to know the back stories of people who are pro life (sure similar environments can be the cause for similar outlooks on life but I want a general idea) first of all to describe my life; a young couple (ages 17 and 21) find out their pregnant, has a shot-gun wedding and gives birth to a beautiful baby boy(my brother)... the young couples marriage is on the fritz so they lazily plan the pregnancy of another gift from "god" at 19 and 23.... this young baby girl (me) becomes the cause for her mothers relapse of drug addiction and she leaves seeing her children every few months til the young children are about 11 and 13--- Being a teenage girl with a father and a grandmother to raise me all my life I had no real female heros in my life and my mother came back to try and be that hero. sadly she still sees me as either the young child I was the few times we saw each other in the past or a "friend" stressing things like my appearance but probably not giving two f*cks if I was raped... one of my many reasons for being pro-choice is I wish my parents had made the right one.... I'm not the only one who feels this way, my creationist boyfriend is even pro-choice because he wishes he was aborted and he was indoctrination into every biblical word written, and despite our extremely similar history our religious views are on opposite ends of the spectrum(me being atheist) and abortion views exactly the same so I know it may be stereotyping but I was just curious what others had to say. Also I want to know your experience with unplanned pregnancies of your own or others. were you ever close to anyone who needed an abortion? did you ever lose/gain a friendship over it? does it seem different when you personally know someone or know someone just by name who got an abortion? have you yourself been faced with they choice? and any other details you feel the need to include
03/07/2012 01:48 AM
So, what would you suggest? I'm working in a school for experience and they've made it an enjoyable experience so I just want to thank the staff as I'm going to leave in, like, two days.
03/06/2012 04:01 PM
Im wanting to send this to the ellen show and want some opinions on it...wether i should add, take something out, or grammer corrections...do you think I should send it? Dear miracle maker, also know to many as Ellen, I’m sure I am one of millions that write, but I thought I would give this a shot. I first wanted to start off by telling you a little about myself. My name is Amanda Drake. I’m 27 yrs old and have been diagnosed with premature ovarian failure (POF) at the age of 18. What this means is I have incurred what happens to most woman in their 50’s, menopause! Finding out you cannot have your own biological children at a young age has been a devastating whirlwind of emotions. The hardest part is that there is no answer to why this happens. Only 1 to 4 percent of people have premature ovarian failure in the U.S. Because premature ovarian is such a small percentage of people, researches put it more on the back burner. I’m a medical assistant and can’t tell you how many sleepless nights I’ve had trying to research the cause of this. To give myself and others answers we so desperately want. I just got married to my husband Roberto May of 2011. I feel blessed to have such an understanding husband that loves me unconditionally. We are approaching our one yr, people get married to have a family and start a life. It’s hard to know that I might not be able to give him that. People with POF do have an option to have a regular family life through egg donation. The problem is that it’s a 50% chance of working and costs $30,000 to use an anonymous donor. Insurance’s don’t cover any costs of the procedure, so people are forced to come up with the money on their own and in full. This leaves you feeling helpless and alone. I’m an only child so I turned to my younger cousin who just had a baby for help. After thinking about it for a long time she agreed. I can’t think of a more generous gift than that and I want her to know how much it means to me. I will be forever grateful and is my light of hope. With my cousins help the cost is still $13,000! My husband and I are working hard to save, but it’s tough and an endless battle. I worry about being able to support a baby afterwards, having to pay so much to conceive. The reason I’m writing this is to ask for help for the people that are suffering because the costs are so high to conceive with POF. To make people aware that this is happening and is becoming more and more common. Let people know if their experiencing any symptoms of POF (hot flashes, sweating, irregular periods) it’s important to talk to your doctor. Freezing your eggs is a great idea as well. Ellen you are generous amazing woman. You make me laugh, cry, smile, and dance every day even when I feel so incomplete. I’m asking you Ellen to help families become real families. Isn’t that what life’s truly about at the end of the day? Thank you for listening to my story, Amanda Drake
03/06/2012 09:06 AM
So I've been dating this guy for 3 months now, his birthday is in less than 2 months && mine is exactly one week later. I know for Christmas we didn't get eachother anything but we had been dating for less than a month. Now I've met everyone in his family, hes been to my church & met my family && things are getting pretty serious. He's hard to peg though. He loves cars, drives an acura integra, like to paint car parts && buy one of a kind car parts. He wears volcum, DC, Monster apparel, but he has so much of that stuff && he told me to NEVER buy anything for his car. I once bought him stickers he straight up said he wanted && a month later they still aren't on his car :P Adittional Info: I give him cute stuff, make cards, visit him at work, bake his favorite cookies for him all the time so that's not really something special for him ya know? He's 21 but doesn't drink, && he said that "cooking just doesn't do it for him" so making him a romantic dinner might not be his favorite thing to do. I'm tight with all his friends but they never want to leave their apartments && have no idea what to get him. OH!!! also, he HATES buying gifts, so I need the gift to say, I totally put thought into your gift, but not "I'm expecting expensive jewelry in a week for my birthday" lol maybe just a cool experience we can share? but what????
03/04/2012 09:55 PM
My boyfriend's birthday is in May, and I'm struggling for present ideas. I've already got him a zorbing experience, but wanted to get him 18 presents... So I'm looking for little gifts now, fun or romantic, etc. He's just the average teenager, likes cars and WoW, but I don't have too much money left. I have some ideas, like a cuddly toy, photo frame, sweets, but could use a few more if anyone has anything. Thanks
03/04/2012 06:55 PM
I know you are bombarded with sexual thoughts and temptations every day to the point that it is almost impossible not to take that road most travelled. I understand there is someone you find so attractive that your hormones react naturally and sometimes the sexual rage within you is overbearing and your natural need to express yourself sexually seems justifiable enough to just get on with it and finally let it or make it happen no matter the cost. But please consider this, hear me out, just listen to me for a moment....please I beg you. YOU ARE A DYING BREED. THERE AREN'T TOO MANY OF YOU LEFT AND YOU ARE SO HARD TO FIND THESE DAYS. YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOUR VALUE IS JUST LIKE THE VALUE OF THE MOST PRECIOUS STONES AND METALS IN THE UNIVERSE. YOU MUST REALIZE THAT A USED HOME, CAR, JEWELRY, PET OR EVEN AN ADOPTED CHILD CAN BRING ANY HUMAN BEING SO MUCH JOY AND CONVENIENCE, BUT THERE IS NO FEELING LIKE HAVING IT NEW. ANYONE WOULD PREFER TO WAIT A YEAR OR TWO WHILE THEIR BRAND NEW DREAM HOME IS BEING BUILT. ANYONE WOULD PREFER A BRAND NEW CAR WITH NO MILES ON IT. ANYONE WOULD PREFER TO HAVE THEIR OWN BRAND NEW BABY BECAUSE THE FEELING OF NEW AND EXCLUSIVE CAN'T BE COMPARED TO OLD AND USED. PLEASE DON'T TAKE THIS AS AN INSULT TO THE MILLIONS WHO MADE HONEST MISTAKES OR HAD NO CHOICE IN LOSING THEIR VIRGINITY BECAUSE THEY WERE ABUSED OR RAPED AT SOME POINT.....THOSE THINGS UNFORTUNATELY HAPPEN AND HAPPINESS CAN STILL BE FOUND. BUT YOU DEAR VIRGIN, YOU POSSESS A PRECIOUS GIFT SO AMAZING IT'S NO WONDER EVERYONE WANTS TO STEAL IT THROUGH EMOTIONAL SUBTLETIES OR OUTRIGHT DECEIT. DO YOU REALIZE THERE IS NO FEELING IN THE WORLD LIKE HOLDING PURE INNOCENCE THAT'S FULL OF THE MOST TENDER AND DELICATE LOVE, READY TO BE TOUCHED FOR THE FIRST TIME, TO BE ENJOYED WITH EVERY NERVOUS QUIVER AS YOU ARE GUIDED INTO THE SWEETEST PARADISE GIVEN BY GOD TO MANKIND TO ENJOY WHILE ON EARTH. DO YOU REALIZE IT IS MY DREAM TO MARRY YOU UNTOUCHED, UNBLEMISHED, WITH EYES ONLY FOR ME AND EMOTIONS THAT CANNOT COMPARE ME SEXUALLY TO ANYONE ELSE IN THE PAST? HOW I LONG THAT YOUR BEST KISS AND MOST AMAZING TOUCH WERE RESERVED ONLY FOR ME. PLEASE REALIZE THAT ANYONE WOULD BE HONORED AND PROUD THAT YOU FOUGHT LIKE CRAZY AND OVERCAME EVERY OBSTACLE TO MAINTAIN YOUR CELIBACY FOR THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE SOMEDAY. GIRLS PLEASE REALIZE THAT ANY MAN WOULD BE HAPPIEST IF HE KNEW HE WAS GETTING THE BEST OF YOU. EVEN THE GUYS WHO ARE PERVERTS AND HAVE COMMITTED SEXUAL IMMORALITY WITH SCORES OF WOMEN WOULD LOVE TO KNOW THAT THE GIRL THEY FALL MADLY IN LOVE WITH IS PURE AND WON'T BE COMPARING THEM TO ANYONE ELSE. I KNOW IT SOUNDS RIDICULOUS BECAUSE WHY WOULD OR SHOULD AN EXPERIENCED PERSON WANT A NON EXPERIENCED PERSON BUT IT'S TRUE......MOST MEN DREAM OF BEING WITH A VIRGIN AND LOVING A VIRGIN. I KNOW GUYS WILL SAY WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET IN YOUR PANTS, AND IRONICALLY THOSE SAME GUYS FROWN WHEN IT'S THEIR SISTER OR DAUGHTER WHO'S BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF SEXUALLY. WHAT A DOUBLE STANDARD!!! WHAT HIPOCRISY!!! IT'S LIKE SAYING I WOULD LOVE TO TAKE YOUR VIRGIN SISTER OR DAUGHTER TO BED BUT STAY AWAY FROM MY SISTER OR DAUGHTER!! sorry for the wall of text and I don't mean to preach but someone has to tell you the truth out of love and care. If every guy out there is profusely trying to get into your pants to take away what you should be reserving for your husband, just to then later conveniently dump you when the thrill is gone.......shouldn't you equally fight just as hard to not be taken advantage of, to protect your feelings now and for the future, and to protect your honor, pride and self respect?? You probably think I'm the stupidest person who ever lived and I will probably get some of the nastiest comments ever but I don't care......I think it's worth a shot......I think you would make God, your family, your future husband, your future children, and yourself proud one day. Dear virgin.....I'M PRAYING TO MEET YOU SOMEDAY AND I PROMISE YOU.....MAKE ME PROUD AND MAKE ME FEEL HONORED ON MY WEDDING NIGHT AND HONEYMOON AND NOT ONLY WILL I BE THE HAPPIEST GUY ON EARTH BUT I PROMISE I WILL LOVE YOU, CHERISH YOU AND TREAT YOU LIKE THE DIAMOND THAT YOU ARE AND MAKE YOU THE HAPPIEST WOMAN ON EARTH AND I'M ACTUALLY SAVING MY VIRGINITY FOR YOU TOO BECAUSE I DON'T EVER WANT YOU TO FEEL COMPARED......MY LOVE....WHEREVER YOU ARE.......WILL YOU STAY PURE AND WAIT FOR ME? P.S.....I LOVE YOU LIKE CRAZY....OMG YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU!!!!! In the name of all males who give their best , true love, and want to marry a virgin.....dear and sweet special virgins......will you wait for us?
03/04/2012 08:54 AM
Are potatoes common in Japan? I know they have French Fries, but it seems like holding an actual potato is an experience most Japanese people can only dream of, and associate with the ultra wealthy. I like the idea of smuggling in a bag of potatoes to Japan, getting a cute Japanese girlfriend, and on her birthday, surprising her with a bag of freshly washed potatoes as a gift. She squeals and is so overwhelmed that she starts crying and shouting excitedly in Japanese. She then gets very serious, strips naked, and bends over her bed, holding open her anus with her fingers, "Please...Put them inside of me, I need to feel this wealth inside of me, make me feel like a princess--" *shudders erotically* "--HURRY!!! AHHH!!!"
03/04/2012 06:13 AM
I was at a birthday party today, and my friend received a private airplane ride over the area as a gift. I asked the person who got it how much it was, and at $130, I'd say it's a great price. Anyways, that's one of those things you don't really think of but exist, cool experiences. What other kinds of cool things are there out there, outside of the norm for dating activities. I want my boyfriend and I to do some interesting things together!
03/04/2012 03:28 AM
I used to be really close with my friends but now i feel like they're shutting me out- not intentionally because they are nice people. For example, i used to be close with one of my friends even to the point of arranging a birthday party for her and buying her a little gift bag.(filled with all the things she loves) i know i've only known her for 3years but i genuinely felt comfortable to joke with her and talk to her about any problems i had. But now shes close with one of my other friends and i'm not jealous of this or anything it's just that now i feel like we've grown apart.( Also it annoys me because she never made arrangements with me i always made the arrangements- but now that she's gotten closer to my other friend i've overheard them arranging things together and i know that she has been keeping secrets from me because one of my other friends let it slip that she was talking about a lad she likes even though she told me she was talking about what birthday present she was getting me. I find this really weird, because the girl she was talking about it to has no experience with boys so why would she tell her over me?) They all have code names for everything and have these secret conversations about pointless gossip- which upsets me because i feel like an outsider with my own friends. I've tried making new friends but i can't really talk about anything with them, and some of the friends that i do have always just end up irritating me and sometimes i wish that i could just be away from them so am i the one causing my own problems ? wondering if anyone has any ideas, advice or experience with dealing with this. I know it's stupid moaning about this but i don't understand what i did to them to deserve this. (- i'm a teenage girl in high school and i have never done anything to upset or offend them. My friends are nice but kind of ditzy, most of them are on facebook, i am trustworthy keep secrets and sometimes i feel like i am more mature than my friend.)
03/02/2012 08:57 PM
By this, I mean any experience where one loses one's sense of self and individuality. That could be anything from a drug trip to a near-death experience to something experienced through meditation or trance. The point is, for so many people, these experiences seem like a great goal to seek out. Many even hope that the afterlife (if such an existence could even be called "life") will just be an eternity of such "bliss." I am not one of those people. I don't even like the idea of temporarily "transcending" myself in such a way, because I treasure myself! I treasure my selfhood and having individuality, because it lets me experience, know, and care for other people and the world as distinct entities. If it's all just a sea of "we," life loses all color, all variety, and all purpose. To me, it's not worth it, no matter how "blissful" it may be. I do firmly believe in a deeper existence beyond the physical. I'm even willing to entertain the idea that, on some fundamental level, everything really is united or derived from the same, infinite Oneness. But having been given the gift of individual existence and personal selfhood, I have no desire to return to such a unified state, at least not literally. Am I alone in this thinking? scribblo - That's... an interesting point, actually. I hadn't thought about it that way, where the entire point is to come back down with better understanding. I guess when viewed in that context, it's not so bad. BuddhaLord - Nah, you didn't offend me. I get the point of the story, and yeah, I kinda figured that would be the Buddhist answer. :p
03/01/2012 09:28 AM
If one has developed a new model to perform genome analysis, very fast, which will enable large scale analysis in an efficient way. How to convince professors in Europe, USA, and CANADA to give him a position to perform the project? The problem is that I cannot share the theoretical model which I've developed with anyone, cause, if I send it for review, or even publish it an a peer reviewed journal, it's gone. Even submitting a grant to FP7, or NSF, NIH, requires one to give details. Without the details, they will think that your bluffing. Giving the details, means, leakage of your ideas. How to do it? Competing with others in FP7 or NIH grants is tedious, cause they will look at the experiences, the team, and some other factors which I do not have. I think current granting rules-systems have many flaws, e.g., to encourage international collaboration, where the team cannot really collaborate, but, they usually use authorship/partnership gifting, of which I do not have. Any help in this issue would be highly appreciated. Cheers, 1- by...It's gone... I mean, I cannot make use of it to get a position. 2- The idea is based on a mathematical model, which I can implement using any programming language. 3- It's GWAS, the method highly improves the efficiency compared to other state-of-the-art method. 4- I agree that it might seem some kind of megalomania :D, but, I assure you it's not.
02/29/2012 03:48 PM
The Trojan War The Trojan War may have been fact and fiction. The Trojan War was a story written by the Greek poet Homer. This version of the story takes place when Helen is involved in an elopement with Paris the Prince of Troy. The Greeks then waged war under the command of the Greek Agamemnon brother of Menelaus the husband of Helen. They fought 10 years in order to get Helen back from Troy. They sent thousands of well-trained experienced life devoted soldiers overseas to the walls of the great city of Troy and waged battle in efforts to conquer Troy while both armies were of great size and brute strength. The city and walls and soldiers of Troy were too strong resulting in many men's deaths. The Greeks devised a cunning plan to build a wooden horse that the Greek soldiers could hide in. They left it outside the city gate of Troy who accepted the horse as a gift and brought it in once inside the city walls the Greek soldiers then attacked the city of Troy. An alternate theory is that the Mycenaean’s and the Hittite who fought over greed were at war and that Troy was caught in the middle ultimately causing it to fall in 13 BC. There are remains of massive cities that support theories that great and powerful civilizations occupied the areas. However there is no evidence of a war being fought over a single woman. Likewise there is no known evidence that there is or ever was the Trojan horse that was built by the Greeks. We have limited evidence and educated guesses of why the war took place. We do have evidence that Troy was brought down by war during that time. But no real evidence of why the war started in the first place except that many of the theories of why war started then may be the exact same reason why wars start today. Over greed, money, power, land and overall livelihood which seem much more likely due to human nature and common sense. The Greeks organized a massive fleet of ships that sailed for an extremely long amount of time prolonging the war many months causing it to last a good amount of the 10 years. It being one of the largest fleets during that time among the fleet of soldiers was Achilles which both were a large part of the Greek strategy. Thus bringing about one of the most famous battles between Hector and Achilles. Eventually leading to Hectors death even though he was an extremely strong opponent he was defeated by Achilles who drug his corpse behind his chariot who was later slain by Paris who shot an arrow that struck his Heel killing him instantly. Which then lead to the infiltration of the wall. The city of Troy was then destroyed there was no trade or taking of Helen once Troy was destroyed. Though land was conquered it is likely that the livelihood of many people were stripped away. The short term lust for wealth, land, power, was not a productive venture for either side long-term. However we have taken the name and used it for what we know as today as the Achilles tendon. This is located on the back of each leg in the ankle area above the heel. We've also referred to the Achilles heel as a weakness in any one structure, idea, or thing. I personally believe that the Trojan War story by Homer may have been a story based on a previous war that was an inflated fabrication of the truth to strike interest among the readers by adding a compelling love story along with some cunning trickery. Many readers have enjoyed it for millennia. Had it been true we would still be more supporting evidence today instead of the vast lack of it. The war that may have brought down Troy was a detriment to all civilizations like many wars today that lead in loss of life, freedom and human decency. It seems even with stories and truths about the bloodshed of mankind we still fail to see or pay attention to or learn from our mistakes in history. Wars repeat lives are lost people who fail to see that the destruction of nature and mankind is counterproductive to a lucrative future for everything that exists on earth. Although I find it interesting that the idea of the Trojan horse concept is still used today especially in computers and internet f you must mention why this was the essay assignment A Horse is a Horse, of Course - or is it? This is a five-paragraph assignment with the general title of The Trojan War The Trojan War goes on the title line of the essay above the first paragraph.). Remember: A paragraph is a minimum of five well-constructed sentences with a topic sentence. (A topic sentence gives an idea of what the paragraph is all about. Example: Although XX, XXX, and XXXX are the top singers today, they are alike and different in many ways.) Start off with an Introductory Paragraph 1: Discuss the Trojan War, including a description of the 2 opposing armies, the historical period of time, the location, and the reasons for the war. Use information from the text and from the any other information you have seen. Paragraph 2, 3 and 4: Check out the 4 websites shown below, concentrating on 2 of them. Write paragraphs 2, 3, and 4 including your answers to the following questions: PARAGRAPH 2 :Was there really a Trojan War? What information
02/28/2012 07:34 AM